Child Arrangements Plan

My Plan

 

My plan is about how my parents will provide me with a loving, stable, caring and safe environment. It is their promise to work together to meet my needs according to my age and development, considering my uniqueness and changing requirements. They will listen to what I have to say and my expressed needs, taking these into account when making decisions in my best interests. I will be included in my arrangements and have information shared with me in an age-appropriate manner. I will be the centre of their world and be nurtured to become independent, respecting and loving both my parents equally.

The quality of my relationships and time spent with my family is more important than the quantum of contact.

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I have the right to:

• Enjoy a meaningful and loving relationship with both my parents.

• Spend time with relatives in my wider family.

• Be protected from harm and supported to grow and develop.

• Have my emotional, intellectual and physical needs met.

• Be heard and my views taken into account.

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My parents promise to:

• Place my welfare at the centre of all their decisions.

• Respect the differing parenting styles and seek to ensure this does not confuse or upset me.

• Discuss how best to meet my needs and enable me to enjoy a loving relationship with both my parents.

• Resolve differences and disputes in a constructive manner, seeking cooperation and understanding rather than allowing conflicts and disagreements to impact on me.

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Communication

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My parents will communicate with each other in order that the arrangements for my care are the best that they can be. The communication between my parents will be polite, civil and business-like.

• They will communicate by email when…

• They will communicate by what’s app or text when…

• They will call each other on the telephone when…

• They will use a communication book that goes with me when I spend time with my parents.

• They will review together my plan once a year.

• They will agree a way to resolve disputes and changes to the arrangements in constructive manner.

 

Spending time arrangements

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I will live with….and spend time with.. It is agreed that:

• I will see…every..

• I will be picked up from and dropped off at…at these times..

• When I am with one of my parents I can call the other parent…..They can call me…

• Holidays and special days…

• My passport will be kept with...

• There will be a communication book that is passed between my parents at pick up and drop off. This includes written information that will assist my care when moving between homes. It is about my current health and well being. It will explain minor accidents and information that should not be discussed at pick up and drop off. 

• Arrangements for spending time with relatives and friends…

• Arrangements for travelling and leaving the country….

 

Finances

 

This will be agreed by my parents and relate to my care and not be dependent on the level spending time arrangements.

They agree:

• That there is a regular payment of…

• That my education and school uniform/equipment…

• That holidays….

• That my clubs and interests..

• That my savings and pocket money…

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Education

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My parents will agree where I will go to school and take into account both my needs and views as I get older.

• I will attend…

• My homework…

 

Health

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My parents will prioritise my health and development, physically, emotionally and intellectually.  

• They agree that my diet and exercise...

• They agree that my health checks and inoculations…

• They agree that hospital treatment and interventions...

 

Parenting Styles

 

It is understood that my parents might differ in terms of how children are cared for, including setting limits and boundaries. Traditions and styles will be discussed and respected. There may be compromise and I will adapt to the different ways in each of my homes. My parents will respect and nourish my culture.

They agree:

• Pets

• Bedtimes

• Beliefs